While most of us are guilty of some of the following behaviors at one time or another, a pathological narcissist tends to dwell habitually in several of the following personas, while remaining largely unaware of (or unconcerned with) how her or his actions affect others. Loves to Talk About Oneself One of the easiest ways to detect a possible narcissist is by listening to the way he or she speaks. These are just two rather mild examples of things that have happened over the past few years. I I dont know if his behaviour can change or if he is even able to recognize it. This article really hit home because I feel like I have given up every single thing. If you're having second thoughts, it is your gut telling you something is wrong.A pathological narcissist loves to talk about himself, often in exaggerated and grandiose terms. I love him, we are supposed to get married next October but I feel broken. You can postpone if anything since you have to take care of your mother.Charming and resourceful they are incapable of sincere emotion, shame, guilt, or love.
I’ll give him the benefit of the doubt and go with liar.At the very least, I thought we could swap travel stories. (That’s right -- This guy’s profile depicted a man I would have found attractive and interesting over a decade ago. When he finally stopped to take a breath, he asked me what I wanted for dinner. “I was thinking we could go back to my place around the corner for a beer and see what happens.” I left without a word. Scuba Diver possessed three character traits that I absolutely abhor: 1) Liar: The on-line dating profile I saw was of a man 12 years ago, not the man I met.As I entered the restaurant for our date, a man waved at me frantically from across the room; this man was 10 years older and 50 pounds heavier than he appeared in his photographs. After our initial introductions, I asked him where he has been scuba diving recently. I decided to pass, paid for my drink and wished him luck on his dating pursuits. He apparently viewed his current self as being similar or even better than a much younger version of himself.Frankly I think the whole debate over whether or not victims attract their abuser is a waste of time. There is no mystical woo-woo reason for this, other than nice, understanding, sympathetic people tend to be easily manipulated and suckered in by con artists.My take on it is that Narcissists are attracted to of people and of situations–and because we are all human, we all have vulnerabilities, and that makes anyone a potential target–although I will admit that some people have more obvious vulnerabilities than others, and are more of a target. We tend to tolerate a bunch of BS that we shouldn’t.